Thursday, September 01, 2005

What is a blog??

I get that question a lot as do many of my blogging friends. Why put yourself out there? Why put your heart out to the world? Well, some blogs (like mine) are definitely out there. Both mine and Marc's families read my blog because I told them about it and gave them permission. I do honestly believe that I could have even gone as far as telling them about it but asking for them not to read it and that they would respect my feelings because, well, that's the way they are. They are good people. There are some people in the blogging community (hi Wolfette!) who have two blogs. One for friends and family to read to stay up to date on what's going on in their lives and a deep dark private one for, well, their imaginary friends (like me) to read and help them on their journey of infertility, adoption, addiction, etc. You get the point. One of my darling blogging buddies have been violated in one of the worse forms of betrayal. Her mother-in-law (hereinafter known as cunt-in-law or CIL for short) broke into her computer, used her daughter-in-law's email account to email the blog to herself at home and then proceeded to read her entire private blog. Wait! It gets better my lovely friends! Her cunt-in-law then proceeds (after confronted on her betrayal) to email pages of the blog that she had downloaded to all of the people she vented about so they could see what she had written about them. My friends, we ALL complain about the people in our lives. This doesn't mean we don't love them, respect them and care for them. It means for a moment or two in time, they have pissed you off and you vented about them and then you get over it. I hope her family who received these heinous emails understand that and I hope her CIL rots in hell. Now, I know many of you are wondering why I am writing this. Apparently the idiot also downloaded her bloglines list and has been frequenting blogs on the list so.... if the cunt-in-law comes here - I'll be able to track her and laugh in her ugly face. Friends of Wolfette (Just Keep Swimming), please post your notes of love and support. Let this horrible, horrible woman know how awful we think she is!

22 comments:

  1. Yeah, I can comment now!

    That is totally unacceptable. Especially after all she went through recently. Sorry Wolfette.

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  2. I can't believe it. What did she think that this would serve? She sounds like a very destructive individual who is probably best off out of one's life than in it.

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  3. That pretty much makes me sick.

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  4. And the award for the Evil Mother In Law goes to.... Geez, that woman just scares me.

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  5. The crap I went through yesterday because of family is nothing compared to this.
    I wish it were not so.
    How hideous.
    I'm so sorry.

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  6. CIL, if you're reading these, that was a cruel and despicable invasion of privacy. You've hurt a person who is already going through a difficult time and stirred up trouble in your family -- and for what? What do you think you have actually accomplished with this vicious behavior? Shame on you.

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  7. Hi Julie!
    Found you on Tertia's GuestMap. I live not-far-from-you and am delurking to say (1)CIL is evil. (2)You are fabulous. (3)I am bursting with excitement over Dylan's arrival. I hope the journey continues to go quickly and smoothly. Love to you and your family and W*olfette too!

    Mimi

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  8. Oh man, that is rotten. So sorry that happened to her.

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  9. I haven't read Wolfette.. but now I shall, and shall love her up!

    This is a fear of mine, that the people i complain about will read my blog and hate me... but well if it happens, then i'll deal with it. Fortunately, I have a lovely MIL, not a CIL so if she is reading my blog (which she may be, i once posted a link onmy knitting blog), well I have nothing bad to say about her. :D

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  10. I've never read Wolfette but that is just terrible. What a horrible thing for a person to do! I hope CIL is happy with the pain she's caused her DIL and now other family members.

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  11. I have never read Wolfette but if you email me her page I will go give her some support.
    This CIL did something absolutely HORRIBLE. Does her dear son know?
    That was just sooooo wrong!!!

    On another note - YEA!!!! I can comment on your blog again!!!!

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  12. CIL's SUCK ASS! I want to kick her so HARD! Wolfie, I am so sorry. I wish I could poke her damned eye out and feed it to her on a cracker.

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  13. What an unbelievably vicious person, and such a violation of privacy. CIL, hope you're proud of yourself. You've ruined your DIL's life, as well as your son's. Is that what you wanted?

    Wolfette, send me a photo of CIL and I will kick her ass.

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  14. When I read the post describing this violation I was shaking. Because to be betrayed like that by someone who is "family" and supposedly loves you is terrible. The reason we have these blogs is to vent and talk about our lives. Unfortunately things we write can be saved, printed or accessed to "pvove" something we said, whereas saying something can be denied. What CIL did was heartless and despicable. When she's ill and looking for Wolfette and husband to care for her, does she thinkg they'll be there for her? I would laugh in her face.

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  15. I was so sad to read her post the other explaining what CIL did and worse yet, how she handled it. What an evil CIL. I went to her blog today in hopes CIL aplogized and everthing is okay and I was so dissmayed to see the blog gone. Poor wolfette. We are thinking of you and wishing you had a better MIL instead of a CIL!

    Oh and what is up with spammer son blogs. I was forced to do the word ID thing on my blog too!

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  16. OH NO!!!!!! I don't know how I missed this! I knew something bad had happened to Jenn/Wolfette (aside from, of course, all the shitty shitty IF crap/operation etc) re: a person in her family, but I hadn't gotten to the part where it was revealed. Today I went by & the blog was gone. I actually just posted about it, not knowing what happened.

    Julie, you are a peach to have posted this.

    CIL beware. You have made us IF bloggers angry. You won't like us when we are angry.

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  17. That's horrifying! My FIL's wife once printed out a blog entry where I bitched about what a horrible father he was and gave it to him, but that pales in comparison to what that wretched woman did! I'm sorry that I never got to read/get to know Wolfette. She sounds like a great person with horrible in-laws!

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  18. L.C.
    MIL is not a CIL. She is a very caring and thoughtfull person. MIL only wants the best for DIL. She drove 2 hrs to help DIL to recover. MIL has never cut DIL down. She came across blog several days later after her visit. She was hurt but she let it go. DIL started posting harshfull and negative things on her blog. MIL has never said anything neg. or hatefull to DIL. I ran across a comment from Wolfette Thanking everyone for the support etc... then she went on to call her MIL a cunt-in-law. That was not called for at all. If you have a problem with a family member you are suppose to talk in out in private that is what families do !!!!!!!!!!!! not air out their dirty laundry.

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  19. LC - Regardless of what you do for people, you have no right to snoop. You KNEW that she has a blog for you and the rest of your family to read and you KNEW that she had a private one. Even if you came across it on google (which I don't believe for a minute) you had no right to read it. It's the equivilent of her leaving her diary on her bed and your going through it, tearing out pages for other family members to read. YOU ARE WRONG. UNTIL YOU CAN SEE THAT YOU ARE A LOST SOUL.

    Oh, and if you weren't snooping - how did you find my blog? HMMMMMM.
    Are you infertile? Adopting maybe?

    LC - do a little soul searching.

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  20. I am not a lost soul. I am just defending a friend. Who does not deserve to be treated like that. I am not a lost soul so please refrain from the name calling. MIL did not know DIL had a private Blog to put family members down. To answer your question it was quite easy to find your blog, all I had to do is type in a key word like Wolfette into goggle and it led me to you. P.S. I am quite happy with my self and my soul. God has blessed me with a great family, 3 beatiful daughter, job, health, and good friends like MIL!!!! I hope you are able to find peace and love in your life

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  21. LC - Funny, you have the same IP address as Wolfette's MIL. Interesting indeed. It's also interesting that all of her internet friends are getting hits from you as well.

    Again, if you are her MIL - you need to look deep inside of yourself. You invaded her privacy. You can make all of the excuses you want but that's what you did, plain and simple. That is just flat our cruel.

    Look above your posts. Did you read what everyone else has written? Is your head so far up your ass that you can't see how wrong this is? I don't care if you carried her through fire and gave her a million dollars - YOU INVADED HER PRIVACY.

    My mother knows about my blog and has my permission to read it. Even she checks w/me every now and then to make sure that I'm still comfortable with her reading it.

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  22. Anonymous5:35 PM

    Let this conversation stop here. L.C. you need to mind your own business. You have never even met wolfette and furthermore you do not know what has taken place. Back off and mind your own business. You do not belong here.

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