Friday, September 09, 2005

Squeaking in one more post before the weekend begins...

I'm very excited. Marc and I are checking out a Synagogue in 2 weeks. They have a group for young married couples and we have been invited to Shabbat Dinner. Marc prefers the Conservative flavor of Judaism where I prefer the more egalitarian Reform flavor. This Synagogue sounds like it has both flavors under one roof (a spiritual chocolate & vanilla if you will). They follow the traditional Conservative service but they have a woman Chazzan or Cantor. It's been a long time since I've had a desire to be in synagogue. Many years ago, I found a synagogue that touched my heart. I felt welcomed and accepted. My parents became very active, my sister went to school and celebrated her Bat Mitzvah there. Then, our little community was thrust into the news. Our Rabbi was accused (and ultimately convicted) of murdering his wife. It also came to light that he had numerous affairs. I, like most people I knew at the time, put the clergy on a pedestal. They were beyond reproach. My spiritual world took a major hurting during that time that I don't feel that I've fully recovered from. I went on to have an adult Bat Mitzvah a few years after this happened at the same synagogue. Then, the remaining Rabbi left and in his place were people that I couldn't relate to. People who would ignore me just because they didn't know my name (after being introduced numerous times). So I've just drifted. Going to that synagogue on High Holidays with my parents or going with Marc's family to his family's synagogue. My only desire was to get out as quickly as possible and that just made me sad. So, while going through our home study process, our lovely social worker, S, was telling us how much she loves her synagogue and how she would love for us to come and see it. She extended the invitation and we are taking her up on it. I hope it's someplace that both Marc and I, together, will feel comfortable enough to call home. Not only for us but for Dylan. I know that they have experience with adoptive children because our social worker has an adopted child.


  1. I hope you can make yourselves comfortable at the new synagogue. I often think it's hard to find a place you feel comfortable in when dealing with faith. We're Catholic and left our parish after we started having trouble. For a number of reasons, we just didn't feel comfortable. I hope you like this one.

  2. I am also finding that, after years of being the prodigal church goer, I want to nurture my spiritual side. Hope you find what you are looking for in this synagogue.

  3. I hope you love it and that you have a great weekend!

  4. Hi, Julie...

    I just had to make a proper delurking introduction... I've seen you around the blogosphere, but until I add someone to my idiot proof list of links... I keep forgetting to pop back and follow along. My memory, you see... is not so much like a seive... as a collander.

    This time, when I came back via linking from some other site... I saw that photo of you and your man... and I thought,
    "THAT'S the woman who has the blog I keep meaning to link... because that photo... is THE BEST blog photo EVER."
    Your energy and zest for life... just BURSTS off the screen... and your writing definitely lives up to the first impression.

    So... hi! You'll never be rid of me now... ;-}

    Oh... and I hope the synagogue lives up to its promise!

  5. You know, far be it for ME to offer you any religious encouragements or insights, seeing as how I am REALLY ANGRY at G-d right now myself and personally avoid synogogues and anything having to do with my faith (except stuff I have to do in order to keep my marriage intact, that is). But I do want to say that it is always important to remember that you can't judge the religion by the people who practice it . . . Sad, but true. Of course, you can only take that so far, since religion is largely a communal experience, so one would hope that somewhere along the way, we all meet people who are practicing it in a positive and inspirational way.

    I think religion provides a really wonderful framework in which to raise children. That is one main reason why I try to maintain my connections despite my deep pain and disappointment in G-d. Just in case I get some kids someday, I really do still believe that life within a warm faith community is better than life without one. I hope you find a wonderful spiritual home for Dylan (and you too!)