Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Doing the right thing... adoption wise

I've been reading blogs by adoptees lately. I'm posting this here because I don't want to take away from their feelings or thoughts. I'm not saying anyone's feelings are wrong. I'm just trying to get my head around some of them.

I don't want Dylan to ever feel anything but loved. He's not second best. He wasn't a last resort. However, there was a journey to him and part of that journey was going through infertility treatment. Marc and I always say how grateful we are for the experience of IF because it brought us to Dylan. I can't imagine my life without him. Not without a baby but without Dylan.

My whole life has been leading up to situations. Does that make sense? I feel like Gd is always giving me obstacles to help me appreciate when I'm given good relationships, jobs, etc.

Sometimes I need to let go of the fear that I will hurt Dylan in some way because he is adopted. I just need to continue to love him with all of my being.

Sorry - I was kind of going somewhere with this but it got a little goofy in the translation from heart/head to blog.

Friday, May 23, 2008


Thanks to UnGrateful Little Bastard for the story.

Seriously, if we ever decided to adopt again and an agency or attorney told us this is how to do it, I may end up in jail for assault.

Seriously... who is ok with THIS?

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Cool Website Find

So I was cruising the Guatemalan Adoption boards (as I'm known to do from time to time) when someone posted about this wonderful thing called Speakshop. It's a website that hooks people up with teachers in Guatemalan and Nicaragua. It's a fair trade situation so the money you pay ($8 per hour) goes directly to the teacher. How cool is that????


Time to pick the internet's brains a bit.

Dylan isn't extremely verbal. He gets into these fits (like this morning) where he'll whine he wants something. He won't verbal what it is other than to say "want dat". When we try to get him to "use his words" he just gets more frustrated. When we finally figure it out it seems to set him off into a tizzy that includes him saying "no want that" and then, when we remove the item from his view, reach, whatever, he flips out yelling. We give it back, "No want that", take it away, flips out - often times biting his hand.

So wise internet - give me some tools here... please.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Let the Voting Begin!!!

Please VOTE for my good friend Andrea's blog for best Mommy Blog. And, if you are so inclined... you can VOTE for me too.

Tuesday, May 06, 2008

Forgot to ask....

What makes your kids lose their minds??

Dylan absolutely goes insane with bubbles. He'll shriek like he's just won the lottery and go tearing off after them screaming "bbbuuubbblllessss!!!!". It's the funniest thing I've ever seen.

Somewhere in the middle....

So I started reading Raising Your Spirited Child. I'm only a few chapters in but it's quite apparent that Dylan isn't as spirited as I thought (at least, compared to the behaviors described in the book).

Oh, don't get me wrong, my boy has spirit and energy galore but he comes down off of it quite quickly. This book is geared more towards children who lock in and that's it. Does that make sense?

The one thing I've taken from the little bit I've read is I want to get rid of the negative language. He's not hyper, he's energetic. He's not loud, he's excited. You get the picture. It's still a good book and plan to keep pushing through it but first I have to read Customer Centric Selling. Can I just tell you how much I friggin hate sales books. I have to read three chapters by tomorrow for our sales meeting. What the fuck. One thing I've learned about this type of thing, read it, take from it what you can and leave the rest. I have never worked for an organization that actually implemented anything from these programs. Last thing was the Fish principal and how we were going to bring this moral program into our office. Meanwhile, moral is still on a downward spiral and nothing was ever done. I will say - that particular book was a good read. More like a story than a how-to book so it held my attention.