Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Get Edjumicated

over at Karen's blog (Naked Overy). All I can say is... wow. She never ceases to knock my socks off!

Friday, January 27, 2006

Ok pregnant friends (both on paper & physical)

I don't give a rats ass what's on your registry. I'm now buying this lovely contraption for all people I love. Ok, the audio part is annoying as a motherfucker but there is nothing funnier than watching your baby bouncing and laughing. Dylan is just loving this crazy thing! Crazy weekend in store - going to get my hair did which mean I get some "me" time which I am so looking forward to. Saturday evening my cousin, her husband and two lovely children are coming over for dinner and to meet Dylan. Sunday our friends from Boston are going to be in the area and will be stopping by for some Dylan kisses. Oh, and Marc may try to teach me to drive a stick shift this weekend. YIKES! Much love to you all - I'm going back to watching Dylan jump around.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

Stupid Human Tricks

I don't' have any tattoos. Neither does Marc. It's against the Jewish religion to have tattoos. I know some Jews have them but we don't. We both, however, do have friends who have them and I do enjoy seeing nice tattoos on people. But every now and then you see something that makes you say.... WHAT THE FUCK???? *Edited to remove apostrophes - thanks grammar police :)

A special post for NOTTHEREALME and other Angel Fans

Do I have the greatest husband or what??

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Monday, January 23, 2006

Wow, did I just hang out with a bunch of hotties!!!

Tonight I met some friends at a local favorite bar for drinks and Dylan snuggles. He was loving the ladies and even as I put him to bed he said... Mommy, when I grow up will there still be smoking hot babes for me? I told him not to worry, there would be incredibles ladies for him. Can I tell you how awesome my internet friends are (who are now... since we met F2F are IRL friends)... I figured we would be hanging out, relaxing, playing a bit w/the Dylan (cause he's so into the hot babes). Well, it turned into a baby shower. They all brought presents for the little man. I was so touched! I had met Meeshers* (and her lovely tata's) many times before. Classic Queen*, Lionesse* & PsychoPants* were all new to me. I walked in w/Dylan and yelled.... "Where's my Bitches??" They all loved that hahahaha. My Gd these are some amazing women! All very beautiful both inside and out. I felt very guilty we had to leave early cause asshole Mom (that would be me) forgot to bring Dylan's meds and had to get him home. They were so understanding (ok PP gave me a little shit but I so deserve it). Oh, and get this Cheeseheadpackerfan* sent Meeshers* a present for Dylan from like 2 or 3 states away. I've never met her in person but she sent a gift. These are all my weight watchers friends. They have put up with more of my shit than you will ever know (without the curses because we can't say things like shit, fuck and cunt on weight watchers boards but I can say it here so... neener neener neener). Just another reason that the internet is a beautiful place. GIRLS - I LOVE YOU!!!! ~SMOOCHES~ *internet names only since I didn't get the ok to do otherwise.

Time to do a little cleaning

Clean out those cookies and vote for Dylan again! We are in a very close second place. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell the guy walking down the street!!! Voting closes tomorrow so get your votes in today! Just go to photowow and put in entrant # 34750

Friday, January 20, 2006


We're in second place! Come on people - tell your friends!!! Vote For Dylan! Just go to photowow and put in entrant # 34750.

Thursday, January 19, 2006

Vote for Dylan

Yes, I'm a total dork and a half. I entered Dylan into one of those online, cute baby contests. I know I pulled his photos so in exchange for allowing the world to see my boy's adorableness... please give him a big ole 10. Oh, and please don't give the other kids 1's - they eliminate those anyway (people do it to drive down the competition's numbers). Just go to photowow and put in entrant # 34750. THANKS!

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

I just got the saddest email

Oh Happy Day!

1. My best friend Jennifer is getting married today to a wonderful man who (if he knows what is good for him) will make all of her dreams come true. 2. Barb is a Mom. 3. Dylan slept from 8:00 p.m. all the way through (barely a whimper) till 6:45 a.m. (he usually gets up around 4:00 a.m. for a bottle). Life is good.

Monday, January 16, 2006


I'm #3 on THIS site. How cool is that? Thanks to Manuela for pointing out that site and this adoption magazine that also references my site. I'm very flattered to be in the same company as Manuela and the other bloggers listed as they are my heros! So... what shall our next debate be? How about.... I'm pissed off because on of the local news reporters announced that Angelina Jolie was finally going to have a baby. Um, last time I listened to someone drone on and one about Angelina Jolie it was about her and her two children - she does have two you know you asshat. Yes, I'm aware she is pregnant for the first time but that doesn't mean that her two other children should be forgotten. Sorry - that's a pretty lame subject isn't it? I promise to come up with something more interesting. How about..... Duct tape as a parenting tool.

Friday, January 13, 2006

Must... Not.... Go..... Downstairs......

I am using every ounce of restraint not to go see Dylan right now. While it's wonderful to have him in my building... it's way to easy to just hop on the elevator to go see him. Have I mentioned how much I love being a Mom? When I look into his beautiful face and he smiles at me (or blows raspberries, or cries or whatever) I just melt. I'm not sure what he's doing in daycare but it's working wonders for his sleeping! He's asleep by 8:00 p.m. and sleeps through till 6:00 a.m. (he'll take a bottle at 6 and go back to sleep if I let him). He's starting to scoot a bit and I think he'll be crawling before we know it. He's sitting up better and better every day. He has absolutely no problem with tummy time (thank Gd) and is rolling over like a champ. One day Marc put him on the living room floor and walked away for a moment. We heard a bang and walked back into the living room. He had rolled across the rug onto the hardwood. He was just laying there smiling. No more leaving him unattended on the floor :) His pediatrician told us to make sure we don't leave anything on the floor (like pennies and other interesting things that baby may want to put into his mouth). Healthwise, he's doing great (again, thank Gd). No idea what caused the seizures and hopefully, they will never happen again. He got through his immunization with just a little crankiness and a 100 degree fever (~waiting for the flames for immunizing my kids). Hey, this reminds me of a story. I may have blogged about it and if I did, tough shit, it's my blog. I was getting my hair done and my former hair dresser and I were chatting and I told her about the adoption. First off... she pregnanted me (oh, you're adopting???? you'll get pregnant). Then, she tells me in a very hushed tone... "Don't vaccinate your child". HUH??? She then proceeded to tell me how she has done all of this research and that she even lied to her school district to get a religious exemption. I asked her about her research and she responded with... "I've read three books". I told her that I thought she was an irresponsible parent, that I would never let my child anywhere near her kids and that my sister-in-law is a pediatrician and when I asked her if she would immunize her kids she said yes this woman explained that my sister-in-law was under the influence of the drug companies. WTF???? Now, I work with a lovely gentleman who I consider uber granola crunchy. I asked him about what he and his wife did about immunization with their new daughter. I fully expected to get the lecture from him. He told me that they researched it, spoke with their daughter's pediatrician and decided that they would not give their daughter all of the immunization at once but space them out. He gave me a number of intelligent reasons to do this and, if I had any choice in the matter (Dylan was pretty much up to date on all of his immunization when we brought him home), we may have decided to do something similar. I just don't get the people who refuse to immunize their children at all. They have studied the effects of immunization and there is absolutely no proof that they cause autism (or any of the other problems people claim to have). Diseases that were virtually wiped out are making a come back because people are not vaccinating their kids. Not good. Not good at all. ~putting soap box away~

Thursday, January 12, 2006


Barb called last night... Carlton's coming home!!! They got their pink slip and leave Sunday to get their beautiful baby boy. Please go over and wish them a safe journey. Dylan is very excited that his foster brother is coming home and can't wait to visit with him (after he's settled in of course). Barb, if you read this... have a safe journey, enjoy your boy, have fun and be safe in Guatemala, we'll be waiting for you.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Shameless Plug

Please vote for my boss HERE. He's a super cool guy and uber hot (sorry boys, he's taken) and I would love to see him win Man of the Year!

Monday, January 09, 2006


Yep - that's about all I can manage today. Dylan started day care (half day) Mommy returned to work (half day) Dylan and Mommy spent rest of days going to doctors (2 and everything is good). Tomorrow a.m. - ped appt and then on to work/day care. This shit is for the birds. Can someone please pass me a winning lottery ticket????

Friday, January 06, 2006

She got me!

Marisa Tagged me so here it goes.. 1. What were you doing 10 years ago? I was miserably single - going to single dances (a/k/a Jew Hops) complaining that I had dated every Jewish man in the tri-state area. Working at MicroWarehouse making mad money. 2. What were you doing 1 year ago? Completing my first injectible cycle. Yep that's it - my entire world at that time was fertility treatments. 3. Five snacks I enjoy: 1. Guacamole (especially Marc's - it's super tasty) 2. Hummus 3. Chips & Onion Dip 4. Laughing Cow Cheese on crackers or celery 5. Nuts - any kind - as long as they're salty (insert joke here) 4. Five songs to which I know all the lyrics 1. I will Survive 2. Our Lips are Sealed 3. Unchained Melody 4. You are my sunshine 5. Inky Dinky Spider 5. Five things I would do if I were a millionaire: 1. Set up a fund to help people who don't have insurance coverage for infertility treatments. 2. Go back to school 3. Weekly Massages 4. Pay off all of our bills & my parents bills 5. Be a SAHM with maids (so I can focus on Dylan and not worry about cleaning the house) 6. Five bad habits: 1. Letting the laundry stack up till I have no choice but to do it. 2. Easily distracted by the computer 3. Putting myself last 4. Holding my emotions in too long 5. Not writing things down and then forgetting things I really need to do. 7. Five things I like doing: 1. Playing w/Marc & DYlan 2. Working out 3. Cooking 4. Dancing 5. Having dinner w/friends 8. Five things I would never wear, buy or get new again: 1. A new car - not worth it. 2. Tube top 3. Anything at Walmart 4. Birkenstocks - I don't care how comfy they are - they are gross 5. Fuggs boots - they are fucking ugly man! 9. Five favorite toys: 1. MP3 player 2. Baby sling - very colorful and lots of fun 3. My furbabies Shadow & Saffie 4. My new purse that goes from a little tiny thing to a huuuugggeee bag 5. Digital Camera So here's the deal: Remove the blog in the top spot from the following list and bump everyone up one place. Then add your blog to the bottom slot cityslicker mom a la carter afrindiemum An Elephant's Gestation Tales From The Stirrups Then select five people to tag: 1. Boy Makes Three 2 Barb - You don't have to do it if you are leaving for Guatemala :) 3. Wessel - sounds like you could use the distraction. 4. Twirl - come on girl - you haven't posted in a while. 5. Amanda

Monday, January 02, 2006

Thought on birth mothers

I've seen some interesting posts in blogsphere about birth mothers. I think my brain has run the gamut of thoughts on birth mothers. When I first started the process I discovered the anti-adoption sites. I was heartbroken. I even second guessed our decision to adopt. I wondered if I was doing this for the right reasons. Could I be a good mother to an adoptive child? I feared birth mothers. I read their sites, their blogs, their anger, their hatred, their pain and I was terrified. I wanted nothing to do with a child's birth mother. Open adoption?? Never! Then I was talking to a client on the phone. He's an adoptive father. Not only does he have an open adoption but it's waaaayyyy open. He's been on vacation with both of his children's birth families! The birth parents are amazing people. Wow. Maybe I was wrong. Then I researched pro-adoption sites by birth parents. There aren't many but they are out there. At this point we have chosen to adopt from Guatemala. I learned that there are some families that have open adoptions from Guatemala. I was fascinated. When you adopt from Guatemala, one of the steps the birth mother must take is an interview in Family Court. Her "story" is recorded and that is one of the documents you receive... Your birth mother's story. Why she chose to make an adoption plan. Marc and I discussed this document at length and decided that the first person to learn Dylan's birth mother's story after us should be Dylan. Please respect this and don't ask - we are not sharing her story. The only thing I will say is that I respect this woman more than words can say. She is an amazing woman. One day, after we received Dylan's DNA results (which we also receive a photograph of Dylan's birth mother holding him) I was mentioning to an idiot coworker how beautiful she is. He said something along the lines of.. Hey - you could hire her as a housekeeper (or something like that). I completely wigged out on this asshat. I basically told him that he's so low he's not worthy to wipe her ass. I told him that if he ever said anything like that again, he'd be hanging out the nearest window by his toenails (much to the delight of his staff). After this happened I was struck by the fierce feelings of protectiveness of this woman who I've never met. I do understand the feelings of fear and intimidating adoptive moms feel of birth mothers. I think it's a process we, as adoptive mothers go through. We are trying to find our place in the world. Are we mothers? Are we real? Are we imagined? Is it us against them? Is it a big happy world where everyone gets along? I pray, in the end, that we (adoptive Moms) realize that we all have our strengths & weaknesses and that all we want.. all of us, is to make the right decisions for our children so that they can grow into happy, well adjusted people. Yes, there are birth mothers out there who have major issue with adoption (many are justified). There are adoptee's who are anti-adoption - they too are justified. I think as adoptive parents we have a resposibility to educate ourselves to the issues these people have. Maybe through this education and undertanding, we can prevent these issues in the future.