Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Saying Goodbye


Monday I went to Andrea's memorial. Just like Andrea, she planned the entire thing. It was beautiful.

Her husband Kelly spoke, her minister spoke, her children spoke, her eldest Alec played guitar and say "My Life" by the Beatles which absolutely killed me. One of her friends read a letter that Andrea had written for the occassion.

I hope, many many many years from now, when my time comes, I have enough time to be as prepared as Andrea was. I hope that I can face my death as bravely as she did.

Her death has brought me some peace with my father's death. I think she said it best when she said that the person who dies has it easy - it's the ones left behind that really have it hard. She's right.

The memorial brought up a lot of emotions about my father's death and my subsequent reunion with my brother (there are reunion stuff happening on Andrea'sside as well so I was really personalizing a lot of things). While I feel a bit ripped open, it's not necessarily in a bad way.

6 comments:

  1. I didn't know her, but she really touched me in the short time I read her blog. To be so brave and so strong in the face of death just blows me away. I, too, hope I can make things as simple for my family as I can when the time comes. Notice I don't say "easy" as she was so right about death being hardest on those left behind.

    Hang in there, my friend, and I do hope that you find a little more peace every day.

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  2. My own mother blew my mind at a funeral for a beloved relative, in her humorous take on the life lived and lost. It made me wonder if I could do the same for her, and frankly I don't know if I could.

    It really seems that some people come in to our lives to show us grace and joy and depth of a life lived, as well as the loss.

    I really have to thank you for showing me the way to Andrea - it was amazing to read her posts and share her last weeks. Thank you for that.

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  3. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.

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  6. A very moving story. Thanks!

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